Do I need an attorney?
Once again, any orders pertaining to your family or your children are the most important legal documents that you could have.
An attorney will be knowledgeable about the law and the Judges that will be hearing your case. The attorney will know what is important to bring to the Court’s attention. An attorney can also assist you in ensuring that your legal rights are protected. I believe it is an absolute necessity to have an attorney in a family law case. If you cannot afford an attorney, you can call Legal Aid in your county. My philosophy is that I would sell my hair to ensure that I had an attorney in a family law case.
What is the process in a typical family law case?
In a divorce or paternity case, a “Petition” must be filed. With this Petition, an Application for Temporary Order is filed, that requests the Orders you want to be in effect while the case is pending. Many divorce or paternity cases can take a long time (even over a year) so the “Temporary Order” will establish rules and guidelines for the parents to abide by until the case is final. The Court hearing on the Temporary Order is usually three to four weeks after you have filed your Petition.
After the Petition and Application for Temporary Order is filed, the other party must be served. At that point, the served party must respond to the Petition within twenty (20) days.
After the Temporary Orders are issued, a trial date is set to finalize the case. The only way a case can be finalized is if (1) there is a trial and the Judge rules on the issues or (2) the parties reach an agreement as to all issues and you have a “settlement”.
What if we agree on everything
Good for you! If parents can agree on the issues pertaining to their family, they will save a lot of heartache for themselves and children, money and time.
An “Agreed Divorce” means that you have sat down with your spouse, decided on (1) who gets what (2) who pays for what (3) where the children will reside (4) when and where visitation will occur. For a divorce to truly be “agreed”, each of these items must be discussed and decided together.
An “Agreed Order Establishing Paternity” is similar. The parents agree to (1) custody (2) visitation and (3) child support (which may be determined by the law and the attorney can calculate the same.)
What is joint custody?
To put it simply, joint custody means that the parents will work together to decide what is best for the children. I believe that joint custody is the way to go if you have two good parents. However, this does force the parents to discuss major decisions in the child’s life and jointly decide the same.
Joint custody does not mean that each party will have the same amount of time with the children. How much time the other parent has with the child depends on a lot of circumstances, which are again decided on a case by case basis.
Joint custody does not mean that there will be no child support. Again, many factors play into whether one party owes child support to the other.
Domestic Violence?
First and foremost, contact the police to help you. If you do not reach out, you cannot get help.
Additionally, if you are a victim of domestic violence, you may pursue a Victim’s Protective Order. This is a Court Order preventing the perpetrator from bothering you, harassing you, stalking you, threatening you, hurting you, or even contacting you if its not related to any children you may have with this person.
You may obtain a Victims protective order by going to the Court Clerk in your county.
Common Law Marriage
There are certain criteria that must be met to be considered “common law” married. You should present your situation to an attorney to inquire if you are, indeed, common law married, as each situation is unique unto itself. If you are common law married, you must get a divorce to legally end the relationship. The Court will divide the property, determine if support alimony is proper and determine the legal rights with respect to the children.
Visitation Issues
Q: If my regular weekend with my children falls during my ex-spouse’s holiday visitation, do I lose my weekend?
A: All holiday visitations supercede regularly scheduled weekend or mid-week visitations. Thus, if your ex’s holiday is on your weekend, you lose your weekend. Likewise, if your ex’s visitation weekend falls on your holiday, your ex looses their weekend. It all balances out in the end.
